Tuesday, April 25, 2006

Nigeria, We hail Thee!

This was adapted from an email I sent to a buddy. He said something about naija men and how they seem to be the brunt of every joke, the bad guy, the Tony Montana to all of our sensibilites. We call them uncouth, liars, Cheats, 419-ers and a host of other horrifying names and my friend asked the question "is it really the naijamans fault?"

My overlong response [lol.....the email I was responding to was about 3 lines long] was:

If you pay a policeman too little to feed his family, how do you want him to survive?

I hate people hating on the police for taking bribes etc when they don't realise that it's not their fault, it's our fault. You want a man to protect the peace when he has no home to shelter his family?

A boy goes to school and gets a degree in chemical engineering, but cannot get a job anywhere then we get angry that he cheated some greedy SOB who wanted $2,000,000 of Abacha's money that he didnt work for?

Unfortunately women dont get accused of the same crimes, because women in Nigeria don't do that. Our society is so sick that it is much easier for a naija girl to find a rich man who has abandoned his real family [his son is probably the one sending 419 emails, because his father said his mother was a witch and refused to continue paying school fees] and is willing to pay for her housing, food clothing, and whatever else she may need for a little loving on the side.

And her poor policeman father cannot open his mouth and ask her not to do it because he knows that she is paying her 4 younger siblings school fees and putting food on the table which he couldn't dream of doing because he hasn't been paid in 3
months.


*sigh*

5 comments:

WalePhotos said...

so i had a long ass personal response to this. lol. i'm not saying anything.

but to play advocate, all you mentioned is not to excuse for men that cheat and steal. there are still some good, hard working people in nigeria- and they get robbed too. it's one thing to be robin hood...but why is that fella robbing his neighbor?

"Women don't do that." i didn't get that statement.

anyways...bottom line is that it's wrong, ignorant and fucked up to generalize someone based you other people's doing.

god bless nigeria.

MaryDunne said...

Tori, Wale is right. In the first place, its no excuse. And to be very honest, many of them are just plain rapacious. There's no other way to put it. I am aware that things are hard. Believe me, I know this...but something I've noticed is that nNigerians in the diaspora who are far removed from the reality of the situation of Nigerians in Nigeria tend to romanticise the situation. Many of the people you talk about are just plain rapacious. Really. Things are hard alright but it has bred a certain greed and hardness in our people. As to the women...well...we ARE in a partriarchal society...so while we have mass 419ers about doing their thing, their wives are sitting comfortably at home eating the money...mind you, these women KNOW what their husbands are doing...they just can't be arsed...but that is one subset of women...
The wives of policemen are also doing their own thing...more often than not, they sell...they put out their wares in front of their homes in the barracks and sell...
Or get a stall in the market and sell...this is what most women of the lower class do...I can't count how many times I've seen a little boy or girl grip his/her mom in her stall saying "mma my shoe has cut"...I remember one woman petting her little boy saying "oh my husband! Don't worry, when I sell small I will by shoe you hear?" That was in Oniru market in Lekki...I was that close to tears...
i overheard two women talking around that western avenue side...one was saying to the other "Wetin ah go do now? Ehn? I go siddon de look for house? We get to work nah? Ehn? I no fit siddon de look mai husban nah...money no de, I get hand, I get leg, sickness no de mai body, na hin I go siddon de look de small food money wey hin go give me? We no fit take am chop nah?" And the other one was nodding and shrugging and slapping her thighs the way we usually do...the same obviously goes for her...
There are those who have refused steadfastly to thieve and extort...its heart rending...but it can be done...heck my grandmum was selling akara on the damn roadside! She has 7 children...each one of them has at LEAST a masters...two of them in the US...all doing well...heck she has grandchildren of which i am the first...
My parents started out humble too...they SCRAPED...all we had in the sitting room when I was a kid was one stool for furniture and the radio and bed...we've come a hell of a long way...we WORK...people can WORK...it can be done...there is no excuse for theiving...none at all...

Too Me to blog said...

The Nigerian Police is your friend.

Dans said...

Nigeria we hail indeed!

Anonymous said...

I am a Nigerian, l want to say, that God bless Nigeria but our value system, our leaders, lack of planning, our education system are not what it should be. We are too greedy that when we are put in any place to manage, we think of ourselves and family alone, what happens to the nation is not our concern, those that are watching can not rebuke such except they want to die. The so called quotal systems should be eliminated if we must develope, quality and good work must be appreciated. Equal opportunity must be given to all. All those that put the country in this mess should be made to pay for it by declaring their assets as government properties. The salary structure should made equivalent to what conterparts earns in the US/Europe while the government should be involve in regulating prizes of essential commodities. Cheating and bribering will stop. We must know that God, our maker is watching over all of us, we should fear Him.